It’s extremely frustrating that he thinks we have the same arrangements with our kids. Him having his kids every other weekend is the not the same as having them 50/50. He doesn’t have to pay for school clothes, groceries, activities. He doesn’t have to wake them up everyday and make sure they get to school. He doesn’t have to do homework, get them to afterschool activities, make dinner, make sure they shower and then get to bed at a half decent hour. He then doesn’t have to clean up the days mess and worry about the next day. He doesn’t have to worry about who is going to watch the kids while he’s at work. He doesn’t have to worry who will watch the kids if they are sick or he’s sick. He doesn’t have to worry if he is able to call off work to stay home with the sick kids. He doesn’t have to worry about if he can even afford to call off.
He has no worries. His ex has these worries. She has to do it all on her own. Like me. Her and I have to rely on our parents to help because thankfully we have them to help. No one else is stepping up to help. Never thought there’d be a day where I would relate to his ex. But here I am doing just that. Being a parent is a full time job. It’s 24/7. But he chose to not be that. He chose the easy way out and only have his kids every now and then so he can still live his life. It doesn’t work that way when you have kids. You put your life aside and raise your kids. You put them first.
He doesn’t though. He puts himself first. Always has. I put my kids first. Always have and always will. We are two very different people. He stresses how he’s going to buy a new a toy for himself. I stress about how I’m going to pay my bills, buy the things the boys need. I stress about how I’m going to work more hours and still find time for my kids and find time to get sleep. Our arrangements are very different. Our worries are very different. It’s frustrating and maddening that he thinks we have the same worries. He’s downplaying how hard I have to work to make sure my kids have everything they need. It’s disrespectful to all parents who are busting their ass to take care of their kids while he just sits back and watches his ex do it all.